I'M TOUGH, I'M MOODY,I'M AMBITIOUS AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I WANT'

                                                            Chapter1- That Chubby girl!!

Hello my dear readers, this is a 24 year old girl who probably feels she is going through some mid life crises with loads of ups and down and ample amount of mood swings. To begin with i have a mind which is no less than an amusement park where all i am expected to do is behave with people in a  nice way(that nice way is probably listening to all the drama going on in my friends and classmates life and just nodding my head on it and saying- Oh!! I am so sorry i feel for you), where the truth of the hour is - hey guys I also going through the same stuff and a little bit of generosity is what i expect from you guys...… but that seems so impossible these days.

To rewind... My name is Sharan, I am 24 years  old, trying to do my MBA peacefully and living in a world where I am surrounded by people who body shame me and can't handle a girl who is as ambitious as they could be. To begin with I have always been this chubby kind of a girl with zero regrets of my weight - as for me it's the heart inside that matters, but apart from you everyone else care about your health and probably predict that in future the so called health will get affected? Well does that mean i am going to die?? Can someone really not from an astrological background predict that? Its so unfortunate that we live in a world where size and color does make a difference. Well what if I am more than that? I feel I am someone who can soul handedly take care of anyone in need, I can always listen to others and I know I am capable enough that I could live on my own. But my readers that's not all, No matter what I am and what all I have achieved in my life till now is always put to secondary when this weight issue comes up. I have now started feeling that who on the first place created such parameters to define me and why don't we expect the same from the other side off the gender? Cant chubby girls be beautiful, cant they have boyfriend or probably can't they do modeling? Well why is it so difficult always for girls like us to create a place for ourselves. Cant we just live life where we haven't been body shamed once. We live in a society where size and curves and color are the deciding factors at the time of ones marriage, and for once if some one gathers the courage to fight against it the one common line slapped on her face is- She is a modern girl exhibiting feminist qualities( I mean, seriously.... speaking up for your own rights is wrong and for the basic world to know feminism is all about being equal, we don't want some extra privilege of being a girl or women! all we ask for is giving equal opportunity and being judged on the same parameters as the opposite gender is being judged)

So to all you girls out there I just wanna say it out loud- you are pretty and beautiful and you don't need anyone to make you feel unhappy about your shape, size or color. 

             GO AND CONQUER AND DONT LET UNNESSARY COMMENTS AFFECT YOU

                                         Chapter 2- Is feminism all about Getting rights?

Hello Dear readers, We live in a cynical world where every other person is asking about some right or the other. And to top it all When ever a women speaks about her rights its always said that you exhibit a feminist attitude, all I can say to such people is that when you male out there speak about your own rights are you guys then being feminist. Why does everyone confuse between rights and feminism. These two are completely different from each other. Being a feminist speaks about standing up for equality and not standing up for rights.Feminism is about all genders having equal rights and opportunities, it's about respecting diverse women's experiences, identity knowledge and strength. There are people who believe that we do not need feminism today, but nothing could be further from the truth. Women have struggled for equality and against oppression for centuries, and although some battles have been partly won- women are still disproportionally affected by all forms of violence and by discrimination in every aspect of life. To quote- After a lot off struggle in 2015 , Saudi Arabia women finally were allowed for the first time, to vote and run for office but that didn't imply reduction in cases of violence against women, there are countries that do not have laws against marital rape and still allow child bride and practices such as honor killings and female genital mutilation still exist.

Jokes about feminism and stereotyping about feminist persist and many of these are also homophobic and assume that being a lesbian is something bad, where people have started accepting gay marriages. In fact, being a feminist is not something that is particular to any sexy or gender; there are women and men who consider themselves feminists, some are gay or lesbian, some heterosexuals', bisexual or transgender- and some may identify differently.

All that I wanna tell you all is that feminism must be seen as a movement to put an end to sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression and to achieve full gender equality in law and in practice.

                                                   Chapter 3- The Waves of Feminism

The first wave of feminism took place in United States. The movement started around 1848 and continued till 1960's. The main aim of this wave was to achieve the right to vote and the right to use birth control. Seventy years had gone since the Revolutionary war where the topics like social, religious and civil rights of women was only discussed. Do you male dominance these topics were always discussed behind the veil but could not achieve anything fruitful as those women back then tied under the clutches of culture and traditions and were only expected to stay being and do as being told.

The second wave of feminism began a new era where in 1960's Women got the strength and power to talk about their rights in terms right to vote , and establishment of new reforms in the field of healthcare, workplace , education and profession. They stood up for there rights and finally constitution gave way to women by recognizing the plight that women faced. The second way then majorly focused on the activism part where women's dislike about their restrictions and career discrimination was raised. Comparing to the first wave this movement gained much more organizations in relation to political acceptance and theories.

The third wave started in the beginning of 1980's and lasted until 1990's. This was also the beginning of a new generation of feminism and new ideals. 'There is no gender identity behind the expression of gender;... identity is performatively constituted by the very 'expression'. To elaborate this new way spoke about the definitions of women's status and sexuality, This new generation of young women , know as post-feminist despised the idea of feminism and defined feminism themselves on their own terms and ideas. The acceptance of the idea of defining it to themselves was related to Sexuality and sexual expressions. This was the attitude that brought up the third wave.

The reason behind taking about these waves is to make my dear readers realize that feminism is not something that has come up in the recent years, it is something that was going on since centuries but with the sprue of media this has taken a fast pace and now everyone is finally being educated about it.

                                                           Chapter 4- The doubt?

You know what, I have been someone who has seen different shades of feminism around me and so i decided to pen this down. To start with there is this women , She is someone who from the start has faced something called an inter cast marriage in terms of marrying someone who is from a different cast of Christianity than herself, to make it simpler the main cast is same but the sub cast is different! phewww!! to much to digest right?? Why does this even exist in the first place, Earlier there were issues as to intercast but now what to do with subcast issues. Even though she belongs to the same case scenario she still faces the rude comments from her husbands family about language and food. Then there is this other women- who was a carefree bird and just wanted to live her life on her terms, but it meant to her husband that she was open and was someone who would sleep with anyone for her career! I mean if you are a high spirit soul and beautiful at the same time, why does the other gender always consider you easy and not someone who fits the Indian cultural society. Here comes another one who is workaholics and mind you is at her late 20's where she is almost at the peak of her career but now she is being forced to get married as the society wants her to bear kids and post 30 bearing the would be difficult which again she would be blamed for. 

The common thing about all the 3 women out here is that they did what they wanted to do. They faced all the things , which on the first place they should not had to face. But they stood up for there own life , they spoke they rebelled, they fell , they cried but they were backed out. So all you readers out here no matter what life throws at you, do what you want and not what your husband , parents or society at large wants. Be fierce and be honest to no one but yourself.